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Finding Joy After Finding Out Your Husband is Gay
The Loveys are an Australian “grown-up girl band” of quirky, bejewelled, intelligent, whimsical, bold women who can laugh at themselves and the travesties of experience (even finding out in your late 60s that your husband is gay!), while also tackling subjects like divorce, death and dementia with soulful genuineness. These are women who look age in the face and say: I dare you to accept an ounce of experience from me! I contain a lot of living to do!
No topic is off the cards with The Loveys. Do you think “spinster” is an old-fashioned term describing the kind of woman you should feel sorry for? Think again! Do you think you’re destined to a life of loneliness? Think again! Do you think septuagenarian sex is something you’ve never heard of or don’t need to think about? Assume again! (And if you’re not convinced, keep reading!)
“Like a bejewelled version of the Kransky Sisters – kitsch, intellectual and humorous as hell!” (Hobart Capital Festival of Voices)
I was privileged to see The Loveys perform live at Melbourne’s Butterfly Club last Saturday. What a treat! If I had to pick a favourite ballad of the night, I’d have to say: don’t make me do that!
Most women know nothing aboutof their husbands' sexual orientations before getting married. Photo: Yang Hui/GT
More than 16 million women in the Chinese mainland are currently, or possess been, married to men who are gay or multi-attracted , according to a leading expert on AIDS and HIV, Professor Zhang Beichuan, of the Qingdao University. He has been researching and collating information as well as the often sad stories of these women who find themselves in relationships that involve secrecy and often abuse and violence.
Despite the numbers involved, most Chinese wives married to gay men remain silent about their situation fearing that they would change into discriminated against or gossiped about if they go public.
To gain an intuition into this rarely discussed problem, the Global Times talked to three women who found themselves married to queer husbands. They each have different stories and different relationships but all hold suffered.
Wives are unaware
Zhang told the Global Times that about 80 percent of homosexual men in China get married because of traditional family values. But, in most cases, the wives of gay men are unaware of their husbands' sexuality before the marriage.
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My Husband's Not Gay: What happened to the cast of controversial reality reveal about married male Mormons attracted to other men?
A controversial docuseries from 2015 about homosexual Mormon men in heterosexual marriages is now going viral on TikTok.
Titled My Husband's Not Gay, the TLC special followed three married Mormon men who are all same-sex attracted, but chose to pursue a traditional lifestyle with wives and children.
Although it aired almost a decade ago, a new generation of reality TV fans like TikTok influencer Julian Hagins have unearthed the special and tracked down the current whereabouts of the cast.
While mixed-orientation marriages have a 70 per cent divorce rate, the couples from My Husband's Not Queer are miraculously all still together.
Curtis and Tera Brown recently celebrated 30 years of marriage, with Tera gushing about the milestone on social media.
A controversial TLC docuseries from 2015 called My Husband's Not Same-sex attracted has gone viral on TikTok as a new generation of reality TV fans discover it
The TLC special followed three married Mormon men who are all same-sex attracted, but chose to pursue a traditional lifestyle with wives and children (C
Gay Widowers: Grieving in Relation to Trauma and Social Supports
by Michael Shernoff, MSW
As published in the Journal of the Gay & Lesbian Medical Association, Vol. 2, No. 1, Parade, 1998
1998 PLENUM Publishing Corporation
Reprinted with permission from Michael Shernoff, MSW
Permission is granted to reproduce or reproduce this article either in full or in part, without prior written authorization of the author on the sole condition that the storyteller is credited and notified of reproduction, and that the publisher's copyright, and place of publication appear.
Abstract
Even though gay men experienced the death of partners before the onset of HIV disease, and the AIDS epidemic has brought increased attention to the plight of gay male widowers, there is very little research on the specifics of how same-sex attracted widowers mourn and what is required for them to adjust to their bereaved state in an adaptive way.
Objective: To narrate the psychosocial issues relevant to gay widowers, and how social support is central for them to resolve their grief in a functional way, and to offer some comparisons between heterosexual and same-sex attracted widowers, thus assisting health care professionals in bes
Widow's Voice
In the days following the death of Michael I began to realize that in addition to losing my husband, I was losing part of my identity. I was having a conversation with someone about Michael when I began stumbling over my words. I hadn’t quite thought out how I would portray him. Up until a few days prior, he was my husband, my spouse, my partner. He wasn’t my ex, as we didn’t end our relationship. Was I still married?
Why was there a need to redefine our relationship? Wasn’t losing him enough? During the previous year we were part of a fortunate collective of gay couples who were able to legally wed in California. The Courts even held that while gay couples were no longer able to wed as a product of Prop 8, we were still married. Suddenly I felt removed from this group.
I realized that I had no role model to equip me for my recent identity. Growing up there seemed to be plenty of female relatives who had survived the impairment of their husbands. They were referred to as widows. But the men I knew who survived their wives were several, and the gay men I know who include survived their spouses were fewer. In the decades past we lost many gay m